The space of mentoring and association is something not easy to understand in the begining days. Especially when a mentor is not coming from a job having big designation and social media following. I got hit by these waves. Now, I know how to balance my swimming with these waves. I'm swim smoothly without losing my energy and focus.
I try to understand what could be going in the mind at the other end.
Here in this blog post, I'm sharing what I experience, and what I'm said by few who wants to pair up and practice.
The intention of this write up is to share what I look for in minimum and no intention of hurting or talking bad of anyone.
Do Not Disclose My Name and My Practice With You
I was approached by few fellow engineers from the software testing community. After a few sessions of pair practicing and learning together, I was asked to not mention or take their name and talk about the practice's accomplisment in the community. I respect and acknolwedge this ask. But, then, I asked why so! I did not see any appropriate reason or concern expressed for doing so. I have not shared anything about our practices and so far accomplishment.
That said, I see these mentees and a few testing community had no concerns in tagging and getting associated with others in social media and in the community spaces.
The curious me, tried to uncover what could be the reason for this. I learn, these are a first few reasons:
- No big job title and role metnioned on my LinkedIn profile
- Not having the major social media following
- Not speaking often in conferences and not given an opportunity for not having a title or big company name in my LinkedIn profile
- Not being a panelist in any conferences
- Not being a panel member in the discussion
- Not being a AMA person in social media and community space
- Not working in a organization which has brand name that bring crowd to conferences or to the one's benefits
- Not getting into unneccessary discussion or space that highlights the exchange of words [not the thoughts]
- For not taking the inequality gesture and treaments
- For practicing deep
- For offerring the assistance when it is not asked
- This thing, I stopped!
- I learned my lessons
- Helping and assisting with no expectation in return
- When you do not asked for any returns, the value is not recongized
- The same people pay thousands elsewhere and say it did not help them
- And, I'm too good and humble is what I see; this does not work in the longer run in any business
- And, being so makes me not practical
So, Why This Blog Post?
- Lacking the courage
- Not wanting to give the due credits
- No mention for whatever we lose, learn and gain in the pair practice we do